Thompson pointed out how the opinions of friends and family only tend to reinforce doubts. One of the sections for Thai women specifically addressed how to keep his family from thinking you are a prostitute.
The way he sees it, a Thai woman could be a banker with a bigger bank account than her farang boyfriend, but his friends and family back home will still perceive it the same way.“If you go home with a Thai girl, people will ask, or even joke, ‘Is she a prostitute? In the case of foreign men dating other farangs and the stereotypical view that foreign women in Bangkok are lonely, Thompson has — somewhat viciously — asked himself of women interested in him: “Is it because you’re into me or have you just been alone so long that it’s broken you?
” Thompson, who is African-American, recalled being with another black guy at a recent art event and having two white women make a beeline for them to chat.
“Farang women that would never look at you twice at home move here and, all of a sudden, they are super open,” he said.
“You put in more time with them and there is also an expectation to help financially, though that’s more with rural families outside of Bangkok.
But what about the dark parts that are mentioned less often?I’m expected to spend time with my girlfriend’s family, which is absolutely fine once in a while, but it can be too much.My free time is important to me, and if it’s limited, this leads to resentment.” Dating in Bangkok can still be a dream come true to many foreign men, who are viewed as rare, prized, and exotic.Chase, 37, is from Canada and reports feeling judged by other foreigners when he dated a Thai — largely because he recalls making the exact same judgments about mixed couples when he moved to Thailand seven years ago with an American girlfriend.“When I first came here and saw those couples, it was my default assumption that those were not real or meaningful relationships.