I've included a link below outlining these results:p=news1&id=530961In addition, Robert Emery, Ph D, who wrote, The Truth About Children and Divorce, does an excellent job of coming in from the two extremist views about whether divorce does or doesn't harm children and says the truth is somewhere in the middle.Young Alex especially gives an extremely candid and honest account of the day-to-day trauma, the hostility and at times the many poignant memories that he has.Living with Mom, Spending Time with Dad also addresses the concerns and anguish of being torn between two parents.People give up too quickly -- which is what I've seen as a marriage and family therapist for many years. I don't get to see my dad more than once every couple years, if I'm lucky. I would get really upset and lock myself in my room. If you don't get along and happen to get married please, DONT HAVE KIDS! "Kids are resilient" is a lie that parents tell themselves so that they can go about making their own selfish choices without regard for what it's going to do to their children. There was no abuse or infidelity or addiction, and my mom can't claim that my dad changed over the course of their marriage - they'd known each other since the age of 3.
It took me until I was 21 to straighten myself out - my college career in particular was a direct casualty - I was so sick of my parents fighting about money that I dropped out to shut them up. (I eventually finished, under my own steam and paying for it by myself).
Judith Wallerstein did some of the greatest misleading in her research and subsequent book entitled, Many people took her findings to heart that divorce harms children - not just in the short term but for many years to come.
Without going into the obvious flaws that have already been exposed in her work, I will suffice it to say that any longitudinal study on families like this can't possibly yield accurate results because you have no way to compare these families to the alternative.
Divorce can be extremely traumatic to families, especially children.
Living With Mom, Spending Time With Dad takes us through a myriad of emotions that two children, Stephen and Alex,experience through this tumultuous period.